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But recently I stumbled upon the term "ambivert," and I found myself drawn to its definition more and more.
According to this Wall Street Journal sidebar:
The Ambivert:So am I an ambivert? All I know for sure is I'm not an extroverted person. I need to be alone once in awhile, especially in a city like New York. (One of my favorite things to do in the city is go to the theater alone to a matinee.) The month before I moved here, an old professor said to me that there would be some days I would have trouble simply standing on the sidewalk because this city is exhausting.
- Socially flexible—comfortable in social situations or being alone.
- Skilled at communicating—intuits when to listen or to talk.
- Moderate in mood—not overly expressive or reserved.
- Adaptable—no default mode, so they change their approach to fit the situation
- Energized by external stimulation—with people, environment, activity
- Processes thoughts while talking
- Motivated by external rewards, recognition and feedback
- Outgoing—easy to get to know
- Energized internally, while being alone
- Craves solitude to balance out social time
- Speaks only when they have something to say
- Thinks before speaking, processing thoughts internally
But I do enjoy spending time with my friends and occasionally networking in large groups. The "adaptable" clarifier in the ambivert definition makes sense to me. The other night at a dinner, I was feeling tired, but knew I wanted to be around the people I would be dining with. But I didn't have much to say for about 75% of the dinner--not because I wasn't interested in anyone or in the conversation. I just hoped I wasn't coming off as rude, because while I can be talkative, I also enjoy being quiet and absorbing others' words and energy too.
Anyways, I'm not quite sure where I'm going with this, but I was just thinking about this because I have a large amount of networking to do coming up and it's giving me anxiety. Which would make a great topic for tomorrow's blog...