As I've been thinking about all of this, I started to wonder if I was alone in being mentor-less and wondering why (Am I too stubborn to take advice? Too arrogant to think I can get by without a mentor? Should I have worked harder to identify a mentor and keep in touch with people who could've served as mentors? The answer to that last question is most likely, yes.), I decided to take my inquiry to Facebook (like all good, serious inquiries, of course) and ask my friends about whether or not they have mentors – or if they're like me and searching for one.
The result? 100% of people said that yes, having a mentor is important. But when it comes to finding the right mentor...that's another story. About half of the people who answered my status are pretty much where I am: looking for the right mentor.
My friends who have mentors and who responded to my status brought up a few key traits that are necessary in a strong mentor: humility, the ability to make a time commitment, and a mutual effort between the mentor and mentee. (See the vlog for more on these answers!)
It's not that I haven't come across brilliant and wonderful people, and I've often asked for advice from people I respect and admire. But that's not exactly a mentor/mentee relationship, which is something that – as one of my friends pointed out on my status – requires a lot of TLC.
I don't know if that makes sense, and it's a bit difficult to articulate (also, I'm waiting for the waves of judgement that may come my way from putting this out there), but it's just been on my mind. I wish I had some concrete answers here for all of you still trying to figure out where and how to find a mentor, but I guess we're going to have to keep trying and learning together.