Sounds a little preach-y, right? It could be, but I find her words fascinating.
Youth culture today is cynical about love. And that cynicism has come from their pervasive feeling that love cannot be found. Expressing this concern in When All You've Ever Wanted Isn't Enough, Harold Kushner writes: "I am afraid that we may be raising a generation of young people who will grow up afraid to love, afraid to give themselves completely to another person, because they will have seen how much it hurts to take the risk of loving and have it not work out. I am afraid that they will grow up looking for intimacy without risk, for pleasure without significant emotional investment. They will be so fearful of the pain of disappointment that they will forgo the possibilities of love and joy." Young people are cynical about love. Ultimately, cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart.And, you know...it's true. What's fascinating about hooks' words to me are how undeniable they are. In reading All About Love, I'm discovering how to acknowledge and accept how much I myself have rejected the concept of love based on what society has created of love. In understanding this, I'm understanding something new about myself as well: I'm understanding that the cynicism I'd come to accept as fact are the product of a guarded heart--guarded to the idea of love because it was often equated in my mind with hurt or disappointment.
Anyways. This could either get really personally and sappy or really distant and emo. I think I'll just leave it as is. Every time I pick up All About Love to read, even if it's just a page or two in a week, I feel this heavy shadow lifted off my shoulders. For just a moment, love and hope are returned to my heart and I think the strength of the person who shared this book with me is also sharing with me her heart, despite how broken she feels as well. That inspires and moves me to overcome any darkness.