You know those moments where you can feel your blood boiling over something someone said? Or maybe it's something that happened that causes you to want to have an immediate reaction--a reaction that isn't positive at all.
If you have a short temper, you're probably familiar with that feeling. I know I am. I got my impatience from my father, who has the shortest temper of anyone I know. Having a short temper doesn't make you a bad person, but it can turn you into a negative one that nobody really wants to be around.
And that's not a great feeling, is it?
Over the last couple of years, I've been working on how to manage my reactions to things that I've found frustrating. A couple of things that have worked for me:
- Deep breaths. It sounds cliché, but a deep and slow breath is effective.
- Count slowly in your head backwards from 10. It helps calm down the Cloud of Chaos brewing in your brain.
- Take a walk. Sometimes a change of scenery is good.
- Rant to the people who know you best. Sometimes you have mean, petulant thoughts about to word vomit all over the place. Rather than lash out, I've found that it's better to rant it out to people who know you best and will respond with Mean Girls GIFs and that sideye emoji that's my personal fave. I'm grateful for the ladies who let me rant and who rant to me when we have grievances to air.
Other things that have worked: listening to music! Watching Late Late Show YouTube videos! Drinking tea!
There's no magical formula, basically--but there are plenty of alternatives to this:
Keep calm and carry on, friends.